Wednesday, June 24, 2015

Two are better than One

Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil .
Today, Robert and I celebrate 9 years of marriage. That is worth celebrating!! As I think back on the years, I see God's incredible faithfulness, grace and love all over our marriage. And I am so grateful!
I am very much a work in progress, but I have seen God's hand at work, miraculously, in our marriage this past year especially and I can't help but share a few things He has taught me and is continuing to teach me everyday.
Marriage is hard! But it is oh so sweet when we surrender it to Jesus and let Him mold us into the people He has created us to be. Here's what I'm learning, perhaps something will encourage you in your marriage today.
~We are in a battle...not with each other, but for each other. The bible is very clear that we have an enemy who's only 'MO' is to steal, kill and destroy. In my opinion, the first place he targets is the heart of the home, your marriage. Remember, you are not fighting against each other! Rather lock arms together and fight for each other.
~Forgive quickly and fully. We have the opportunity to forgive big and little things, daily. Forgive the big and the little and move on. Just as Jesus has forgiven us, we are to forgive others.
~Love never fails. The world will tell us that love isn't enough. But it absolutely is! Love, Christ's love, is more than enough and will never, ever fail.
~Give grace, abundantly. Nobody is perfect. Don't hold your spouse to standards you are not willing to fulfill yourself. Give grace!
~Seek to understand, not be understood. Make it your goal to understand your spouse, to ask questions, to study them as you did when you were dating. The more we seek to understand, the more we are understood. Sounds illogical, but it's true.
~Dream together. Life has a way of stealing our dreams from us. Take them back! Dream together and find a way to pursue those dreams together.
~Love well. It is easy to get caught up in the "game" of "I'm not feeling loved, so I'm not going to give love." Don't play that game! Figure out how your spouse feels loved and then fill that "love tank" up to overflowing, everyday! And when you think you have nothing left to give, tap into the Source of love and love some more!
~Pray. Pray for each other...together and separately. There is nothing better you can do for your spouse and marriage, than to surround, inundate, saturate your spouse and marriage in prayer. Prayer is powerful!
~Encourage. Be your spouse's biggest encourager! Always see the best in them and never, ever stop telling them what you love about them and that you are proud of them.
~Celebrate. Celebrate the big and little things. Celebrate accomplishments together and just celebrate who your spouse is. There is beauty, and something to celebrate, in each day. Look for it.
~Remember. Remember why you fell in love. Remember that God is for you and your marriage. Remember that your love and your spouse are worth fighting for, always.
I am so grateful for my life with Robert. There have been incredibly difficult times and incredibly beautiful times and I am grateful for them all. When we surrender ourselves to Jesus, He uses all things for His glory. And through marriage, we have the privilege of understanding a little bit more how much Christ loves us and how we can, in turn, love like Christ.
Happy Anniversary, Babe! There is nobody else I would rather walk through life with than you. Here's to countless more years together!

Wednesday, May 6, 2015


Our mind is a battlefield and we control who wins the battle and takes control of our mind. It takes intentionality and discipline to 'seek the things that are above' and 'set our minds on things that are above.'
Colossians 3:1-2 If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth.
We are constantly under attack to focus on things "below", things we face and deal with everyday. From social media to TV, to music and articles we read, we are encouraged to focus on ourselves and indulges our desires.
Or how about this...Have you ever had a dream you enjoyed that seemed so real, that you were disappointed that it wasn't when you woke up? I have. Even things as seemingly innocent as that can wreak havoc on our minds.
So, how do we discipline our minds to focus on Christ and things above?
Colossians 3:6 When Christ who is your life appears, then you also will appear with Him in glory. {emphasis mine}
There's the answer, we make Christ our life. We give it all to Him, the good, the bad and the ugly. We get alone with Him and pour out everything that is in our hearts and on our minds.
It isn't always pretty, what we pour out at His feet, but that's ok! Christ wants our hearts and can handle the junk we sometimes leave at His feet.
Romans 8:1 There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.
Jesus already knows what's in our hearts and in our minds and He still loves us! So why not willingly release it to Him?
Walk in His freedom and set your mind on things above.
Colossians 3:10 and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its Creator

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Wednesday, March 18, 2015

Colossians 2:6-23

Religion vs. Relationship.

I love this passage. Paul really gets in your face, emphasizing the importance of not letting anyone lure you away from relationship with Jesus over the religion of Christianity.

We have all come in contact with religion. Whether we've had personal experiences in a church, watched people in our lives live out their religion, or witnessed it on TV, we know what religion looks like. It is full of rules and regulations. "Do not's" and "Thou shalts". Restricting and condemning. Off putting and something you avoid.

Relationship with Jesus is completely different, though! It is full of freedom, love and grace. When you are in a relationship with Jesus, you long to linger with Him. To spend time with Him in His Word and through prayer. And your life is different. You are different! People gravitate toward you because they want the joy and perspective you have on life because of Jesus.

Colossians 2:6-7 says "Therefore, as you received Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk in him, rooted and built up in him and established in the faith, just as you were taught, abounding in thanksgiving."

If we are to "walk in him" as that verse says, we must spend time with Him and hide His words deep within our hearts. We must listen closely to His voice, quiet ourselves throughout the day in order to hear His leading. We must love!

John 13:35 says "By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another."

Have you been lured away by religion? Do you avoid Jesus because you think He is out to get you?

Can I invite you today to a relationship with Jesus?! He is love. He is grace. He is truth. He is everything religion is not!! Turn to Him today!

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